The act of engaging the senses in a close and connected way. The act of allowing others to see into you, the truth of you, the heart of you. Practice intimacy with yourself, touch your face. Practice intimacy with the world, stroke the wet dew bead hanging off a stout leaf. Practice intimacy with others, allow them close.
Erotic is an antidote to death… eroticism is a key ingredient to life…it is about how people connect to this quality of aliveness, of vibrancy, of vitality, of renewal. It is actually a spiritual, mystical experience of life
– written by Esther perel
To feel is to be human. What you feel has been felt to some extent by every single person. Don’t forget this.
The story of a child. Diagnosed with infantile anorexia for her inability to gain weight despite hospitalized feedings. Two years old. The doctors so unable to recognize the external factors that stifled her growth. They put the blame on the child, tubing and testing and poking. Only to discover, what she really needed was intimacy. Physical touch. Closeness. Her mother had never experienced this as a child. And so the cycle continues. When her mother began holding, coddling, hugging, embracing her baby while she ate, and increasingly while she slept, while she played, any notion of the first case of ‘infantile anorexia’ was dismissed. The infant instantly shot up like a bean sprout and grew and didn’t stop. Perhaps we can learn from her. Perhaps we ourselves have stopped growing due to lack of closeness, intimacy, physical touch.
4 hugs a day for health. 12 hugs a day for healing. Goes the saying. Exactness and numbers are irrelevant, but the meaning is greater- we need closeness to grow and be healthy.
Spot on!
Beautiful. I love hugs.